I thought I loved you but it was just a dream, a memory tucked away somewhere within the darkest recesses of my mind.True love cannot be healed or taken away or changed by the subtle hands of time.It was never actually you that I saw staring back at me as I looked into your eyes on that fateful day.It was me. It was the fact that you believed in the person that I thought I had long forgotten, buried somewhere deep.It was what you saw when you looked straight at me.Instead of choosing to be put off by my strength You chose to embrace it. Instead of fearing my voice you chose to enhance it time and time again.To me that is one of a thousand reasons why you remain the strongest of men.For helping this woman to believe in herself again.😇🎓
Candace Casey aka Cccasey5150
I have a confession to make: I have never listened to a Taylor Swift song and I did not even know who Kanye West was until he married Kim Kardashian and they had their famous baby, North or Nori as KK calls her.I for one however am glad to see Taylor standing up for not onl herself but encouraging other women to follow their own dreams.I love seeing young women encouraging others.We need more of that.
Candace Casey aka Cccasey5150
http://mashable.com/2016/01/28/barbie-body-shapes/?utm_content=feature_img&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=daily&utm_source=newsletter&utm_cid=mash-prod-email-topstories&utm_emailalert=daily Barbie gets a makeover! I cannot be the only feminist excited about the fact that Mattel is broadening barbies horizons by including more diverse representations of Americas favorite doll.Barbies were as popular for little girls during my own childhood as they are now in my daughters Destiny.As her mommy I could not help but feel somewhat amused and proud when I bought her her first barbie and she promptly removed one of the arms so that her barbie “looked more like mommy” when my toddler is aware of the fact that a dolls body type is unrealistic its about time that the manufacturer gets on board.I cant wait to see these new dolls on the shelves.
Candace Casey aka Cccasey5150
http://bellejar.ca/2012/08/13/the-f-word-or-why-cant-you-just-admit-that-youre-a-feminist/ Here is an appealing list of All of the reasons I don’t fear being referred to as a feminist : This article summed up pretty much everything I have ever tried to express about the “Feminist “label. Let me just start by saying that as an Evangelical Christian I run in interesting circles amongst people who misconstrue what feminism was or is intended to be about and truth be told that was part of the reason I initially shyed away from using that label. However as I looked back on my academic and spiritual career I noted that all of my heroes were in fact self identified feminists from Sojourner Truths “Ain’t I a woman? ” speech that first enticed me while writing my fifth grade book report to the story of Elizabeth Blackwell’s struggle to be taken seriously as the first female MD, to one of my favorite poems Maya Angelou’s “phenomenal woman “.I do not fear being referred to as a “Christian “because some uneducated individuals assume that I am some kind of Bible wielding psycho intent on blowing up abortion clinics. I understand that several influential people from Mlk, to Mother Theresa also identified as Christians and for the most part even post homously are considered respectable and influential people . In the same vein many noteworthy women including the Suffragettes, women who risked their very lives in order to grant us the right to vote, to work outside the home or even to access birth control recognized and identified proudly with the Feminist label. I am proud to consider myself a kindred spirit and an ally with those who believe that a woman’s place is wherever she chooses it to be that is feminism in a Nutshell to me.
Candace Casey aka Cccasey5150
Rejection is a pretty uniform aspect of the human experience. No matter how amazing, attractive or talented an individual might be; there will always be those who just don’t see it. Elvis Presley the king of rock and roll himself was once told by a talent agent that he couldn’t carry a tune in a bucket and he should just stick to truck driving .There are many other noteworthy and influential individuals who basically stumbled upon success while trying to achieve certain goals like the woman who accidently invented Kevlar or the Scientist who accidently discovered penicillin. In a similar fashion I have always considered the male concept of the” friend zone “to be a particularly perplexing anomaly. What I find to be somewhat humorous is the simple fact that many of the same young men who waste their precious time complaining that “girls are only into assholes often find themselves “smitten “with young women who might be physically attractive but possess terrible personalities. It’s an insane double standard that superficiality is acceptable in the male of the species but is somehow contemptible in the female of the same species. I have two brothers who are very close to the same age as I am, so I have often been the only girl around in a house full of guys.
It never ceases to amaze and astound me how guys appear to view male/female relations. For example, a girl with a huge crush on her closest guy friend doesn’t generally claim that he has “friend zoned”her if he doesn’t automatically reciprocate her feelings. In fact as women we generally understand that our crush /friend feeling the exact same way about us as we do about them is far more likely to occur in a romantic comedy than in real life. We in no way feel entitled to male attention. We accept the sometimes harsh reality that there are dozens ( and more) attractive women out there and like it or not we may not always be our crushes first choice. In fact we may not even be on his radar as far as a potential romantic partner is concerned. Perhaps other women might feel differently I do not know. I cannot speak for anyone other than myself. As a woman with an outwardly visible disability
not being rejected by the opposite sex for me was at times the anomaly. When I was very young I had a close male friend we will call him K, that I eventually developed romantic feelings toward. I never in a million years would have claimed that he “friend zoned ” me I in fact saw him as beyond my reach and was far more afraid of him finding out how I felt about him and him becoming uncomfortable around me and possibly
eventually losing his friendship over it. I could not bear the thought of losing him as a friend so telling him about my feelings for him was out of the question. Unfortunately a mutual friend divulged my secret to him against my wishes. To my surprise he seemed flattered rather than repulsed by the”revelation “he let me down far more gently and with greater kindness than I expected. In hindsight remembering who he was and how he conducted himself I am not sure why his kindness surpised me except that he spoke at that time with the wisdom and maturity of someone much older than he actually was. We actually remained close until his family moved away that year and though we saw each other again inHigh school we had drifted apart andI was far too shy and afraid at that time to attempt at reestablishing that original “connection “.In my heart I never stopped caring for him and still smile when I hear his namebut I have moved on. He taught me so much about so many things: friendship, love courage and most importantly cherishing the time that you spend with the people who are closest to you because we never know how much or how little we might have. Yet it remains a mystery me how guys still refer to a girl expressing a desire to just be friends as the “friends zone ” because for me personally every notable or enduring relationship that I have ever been a part of had at one time began in that notorious place. Then again I am the type of person who tends to be very selective with even my friendships. I don’t mean this as a symbol superiority nor am I a “snob”on the contrary though I present a tough” exterior ” I am actually a very vulnerable and sensitive person that only feels”safe” confiding in certain individuals. Maintaining my own sense of dignity often dictates that that number remain small. In any case if I don’t like a guy enough to consider him a friend first it is literally impossible for me to fall in love with him. As far as men or women who feel “entitled to sex ” ,I am a monogamist to my very core. I could never engage in a one night stand or have sex with someone that I felt no emotional or spiritual connection with. Fortunately for me I don’t have to; because I decided years ago to; marrymy current best friend and this May we will be celebrating our 8th wedding Anniversary. I guess good things really do come to those who wait.
Candace Casey aka Cccasey5150
I remember reading the famous letter from a Birmingham jail in one of my English text books while I was in college. Yesterday was Martin Luther King Jr day and I was just thinking about what Mlk might actually think about the current state of “race relations” in the US. I wonder how he would feel knowing that there is a black man in the white house ,or in the face that there was a “warning “about the usage of the word “Negro” being contained in this article because Negro is now considered an outdated and negative or racist terminology. I also sadly think of how he might feel knowing that just a few days ago I read something like this on my google plus profile page “having dated a black man makes you trash”in response to my commentary on an experimental video made entitled “do white women like black men?”.The person who directed this comment towards me doesn’t know me or anything about me. She doesn’t know that I was pretty much single for most of my life, or that I never had sex with the man I was talking about. Even amongst my high school friends hearing that dating a black man was “disgusting “because of ignorant assumptions that a. A black Mans owns is larger than average or B.That I was having sex with any man I was dating. Funnily enough I am the kind of girl who was always highly selective about who I chose to date because I was born missing a limb and guys in my experience had a tendency to assume that having a physical deformity would translate into being “insecure and easy”but to be honest I have always been more afraid of ending up with a guy who doesn’t appreciate me than I was in ending up alone. In any case I sometimes am appalled at how little progress has been made
In the area of race relations .Yes our Nation now has it’s first black president but considering how many people have taken to publicly criticizing our president and how unpopular he is in some circles I wonder if things have really changed all at once. Even a friend I had known for years who knows that I am not racist made a reference to “the nigger in the white house “.I also remember reading James Baldwins “Notes of a Native son”during my first year in college and I find it interesting that he and Mlk , while they chose to express it quite differently held similar feelings regarding segregation even though MlK was living in the South and James Baldwin in Harlem
.I as a Christian also think a great deal of what MlK said regarding the complacency within the church and larger religious community resonated with me. I will discuss that at length in my next blog post.
http://latest.com/2016/01/donald-trump-wants-you-to-know-he-has-a-great-relationship-with-god/ Relationship Status with God? Sounds slightly sacrilegious to me.
While I don’t feel it’s my place to offer an opinion on Donald Trump’s relationship with God, not all of us who identify as “Evangelical “feel the business tycoon is a good potential president candidate material. The man is just not in touch with the working class at any estimation and to be honest as someone of Mexican descent I am not a fan of his policy on immigration. I also think that Mr Trump has erroneously confused “political backing “with a “relationship “they really aren’t the same thing. In any instance all of those of us who truly believe understand that there is no such thing as a relationship with God without a very basic understanding of forgiveness, grace and mercy. We do not sing songs like Amazing Grace or The old Rugged Cross without an actual view of the cross in mind. In fact Christianity without the Cross might as well be modern self help with a new agey spin. I prefer my gospel straight no watering down the living waters thanks.