Your Strength

You saw yourself in many ways as someone who was either “irrelevant” or ” in the way” but that is not at all you made those around you feel. Your lack of ego or pride in many ways became your defining attribute
In so many ways others may have taken your kindness for granted or even seen it as a “weakness.”I however never ceased to be amazed at your brilliance. Your light was never extinguished even after you were gone.In the wake of your untimely demise your spirit, your kindness, your strength lives on.

Candace Casey aka Cccasey5150

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Who I am”:Unchained

Somewhere deep inside me there still lies an insecure young girl who just wants to be accepted.Who longs to be loved who still internalizes all the negative while failing to believe the positive about herself. You had to break what little spirit I had in me.You had to drag my image through the mud.My disempowerment  made you feel energized, forcing me to see myself through your eyes. But did you really think that my identity was actually that fragile?I had to masquerade as someone that I could never be for far too long.Though frail and flawed on the p
Outside my inner being remained strong. Your opinion never meant anything to me it was just a drop in time that faded by. Since our one and only encounter I have loved and lost a thousand times over until I finally found the man who became my best friend , husband and lover.I have had admirers of both sexes who could see the beauty in me you claimed you could not see and through every encounter who I am has remained Unchained.

Candace Casey aka Cccasey5150

Are men really “way stronger” ?

So I am kind of used to inadvertently pissing men off.The following example is from a youtube video “social experiment” in one aspect of the experiment the couple has a fight and the guy hits the girl , in the next phase the same couple, the same fight except this time  he unleashes his “fury” on her.In the first example of course many people attempt to come to the young woman’s aid.In the next however the results are very different.I was one of the only women pointing out the double standard that female violence against men is often seen as a joke because of the following prejudices 1.men are physically stronger therefore a woman “can’t” really do damage 2.because men are “stronger” they should not hit women.( ok obviously I dont think anyone should hit anyone) Expressing my opinion was of course met with a Chorus of “shut up bitch” especially my stance on the simple fact that no obe in their right mind would refer to being hit as a “right”.

Call me crazy but I am of the mindframe that says when a man’s only argument against a woman he feels threatened by are the words “Shut up Bitch” it is very telling about the amount of “strength” he assumes he posesses.I grew up with two brothers and am very grateful that neither of them every talked to me this way.Beyond that I know some very strong women including a female wrestler who has pinned several men to the mat. In fact during the course of her wrestling career she lost only once and it was to another strong woman in her own weight division all of her other opponents had been male .So when a guy comes on my page and makes a ridiculous comment on the weakness of the “female threshhold for pain” I point out the simple fact that I have never seen a man push a ten pound child through his penis and still get up and do laundry the next day.Or the fact that my “tough masculine” husband complains he is dying every time he so much as gets a common cold. To which of course I am met with a Chorus of “shut up bitch” .Men are way stronger because we freakin say we are.Ah there is that proof that when met with a cogent argument some guys revert back to cave speech.In any case these guys have no idea what they are talking about.I have plenty of male loved ones that have suffered at the hands of women who have used these male stereotypes to their advantage but I suppose any man that lacking in objective reasoning skills must need to feel like he has something left to compensate. How sad.

Candace Casey aka Cccasey5150

The deep📒

There was a time in my life that I sought for others to define me.I saw my beauty, my strength, only from the eyes of my friends. Sometimes I feel heartbroken, misunderstood that I will never be that girl again. I just no longer seek validation from anywhere except within.The hardest thing  for me is to foresee the person I might one day become. I no longer even see the shallow waters I once waded in.I have ventured off into the deep trying not to look back again.I want to plunge into the unknown, to see the face of God as he extends his hand to me.I no longer fear laughter .I fear ridicule.I must walk away from you .If you push me to the shore, swimming against the current.I have to walk away.I can’t make it if I continue allowing myself to focus on the mundane.

Candace Casey aka Cccasey5150

The strongest of men

I thought I loved you but it was just a dream, a memory tucked away somewhere within the darkest recesses of my mind.True love cannot be healed or taken away or changed by the subtle hands of time.It was never actually you that I saw staring back at me as I looked into your eyes on that fateful day.It was me. It was the fact that you believed in the person that I thought I had long forgotten, buried somewhere deep.It was what you saw when you looked straight at me.Instead of choosing to be put off by my strength You chose to embrace it. Instead of fearing my voice you chose to enhance it time and time again.To me that is one of a thousand reasons why you remain the strongest of men.For helping this woman to believe in herself again.😇🎓

Candace Casey aka Cccasey5150

Taylor Swift Becomes First Woman to Win Album of Year Grammy Twice — and She KOs Kanye West With Line in Her Acceptance Speech | Video | TheBlaze.com

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I have a confession to make: I have never listened to a Taylor Swift song and I did not even know who Kanye West was until he married Kim Kardashian and they had their famous baby, North or Nori as KK calls her.I for one however am glad to see Taylor standing up for not onl herself but encouraging other women to follow their own dreams.I love seeing young women encouraging others.We need more of that.

Candace Casey aka Cccasey5150